“If things are not as you wish, wish them as they are.”
– Yiddish Proverb
Sad to say, I’ve spent a pretty good amount of time over the years fighting reality.
* This soul-sucking company bites, but we have to pay the bills.
* It’s not fair; I don’t deserve to be treated this way.
* Starting a family shouldn’t be this hard.
I’d dig in, determined that right is right and life should be at least a little fair and if you work hard and live right then there should be a certain amount of justice involved. Something would go wrong and I’d push back, harder and harder, until I gained an inch or finally realized I was spinning my wheels.
But this Yiddish Proverb speaks to the wisdom of what I’m trying to live now…that fighting reality is not just exhausting but useless. That once I accept my life as it is, I find endless possibilities open up to me and I’m at peace.
Which seems like a much more satisfying way to live.