abandonment rears its ugly head

Abandonment issues appear over and over again in adoption, manifesting in a variety of thoughts and actions.  Dealing with it sometimes feels like Whack-a-Mole…knock one problem out, another one pops up in its place.

So I guess the end goal is to outlast the stupid Moles.

Join us tomorrow to read about my latest approach when one of Bear’s abandonment issues popped up.

Bear’s recently begun struggling to resolve some uncomfortable feelings about her adoption.  This is just a bit unsettling for me.  She’s always been our happy go lucky girl, so it’s tough to hear some of the painful things she’s going through.  On the other hand, I’m extraordinarily grateful that at least she’s talking about it…

Bear’s sadness that day?  “I don’t feel like I was wanted.”  And a piece of my heart broke at the pain and sorrow in her voice.

4 thoughts on “abandonment rears its ugly head

    • Every single day, Jim! 🙂 I think this was one of those deep down hurts that pops up once in a while, even though she knows we were thrilled beyond words when she came along…


  1. Those are probably the hardest words to hear from a child. It’s a hurt than a kiss and band-aid can’t fix. I’m sure she knows how much she is loved. She just has that ache inside and wondering… I know I would have cried a river 🙂

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