Abandonment issues appear over and over again in adoption, manifesting in a variety of thoughts and actions.  Dealing with it sometimes feels like Whack-a-Mole…knock one problem out, another one pops up in its place.

So I guess the end goal is to outlast the stupid Moles.

Join us tomorrow to read about my latest approach when one of Bear’s abandonment issues popped up.

Bear’s recently begun struggling to resolve some uncomfortable feelings about her adoption.  This is just a bit unsettling for me.  She’s always been our happy go lucky girl, so it’s tough to hear some of the painful things she’s going through.  On the other hand, I’m extraordinarily grateful that at least she’s talking about it…

Bear’s sadness that day?  “I don’t feel like I was wanted.”  And a piece of my heart broke at the pain and sorrow in her voice.