“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.”
– Carl Jung
Let me tell you a story.
It’s about a woman you’ve known, maybe for months, maybe for years. It might be from the PTO or your church or a coffee shop…you could be acquaintances, or maybe even friends, but you know the person she is now. You know her as a parent, a neighbor, a coach, a colleague. You like her; you might even think the two of you have things in common.
You’re probably right.
What you don’t know is her history. You don’t know about her youth or college years. You don’t know if she’s had medical problems or faced other crises. You don’t know all of the life experiences that shape her worldview.
You know the person she’s chosen to become.
Which is how it should be. We are not what happens to us. We make many choices along our journey, decisions that mold and change us as we age. We are who we become.
They say be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. I say be kind, for you have no idea what battles each person has already waged.