gratitude: respect

At the risk of sounding old and crotchety, I’m kind of into that whole respect your elders thing.  Not the bowing and scraping, fetch me a drink sort of respect.  More a watch your sassing and behave in public respect.

Yep.  Respect is a pretty big deal for me.

Picture this (all true stories):

The kids and I were waiting in a checkout line when the six-year-old behind us pitched a total fit over his mom refusing to buy him a candy bar.  And when I say fit I mean fist clenching, voice raised, “I-hate-you-you-never-buy-me-anything-you-ALWAYS-SAY-NO!” shrieking.  No voice of reason could quell his fury, so we were forced to endure his endless whining until we finally escaped the checkout.

Bear and I were watching T-man’s soccer practice when I was distracted by what I’ll politely call a scene unfolding nearby.  It was some sort of family dispute – there were raised voices, but they were just muddled enough that I could only make out bits and pieces.  The crux seemed to be that the stepmother said it was time to leave and (this always astounds me) a boy who looked about first grade flat out refused.  Not only said no, he wasn’t going, but followed it up with ugliness that made my jaw drop.  It was around the time he called her a “big fat liar” that I snapped.  WTH?!

The four of us were getting lunch out when I noticed the people at a nearby table.  Three of the five had their noses stuck in phones, barely paying attention to what was happening around them.  When their food arrived the mother told one of the teens to put up her phone; for her trouble she was treated to an eye roll, heavy sigh, and Whatever.

I’m grateful that my kids display a healthy respect for BrightSide and me.  Even more so, though, I’m grateful that my kids were just as horrified by these children and their behavior as I was.

They stared in shock at kids who were doing the unthinkable, often commenting once we were out of earshot that they couldn’t believe how rude they were.

Respect.  It’s priceless.


My post as part of Colline’s Gratitude Project.

11 thoughts on “gratitude: respect

  1. It is true how many kids really don’t have respect…. Sadly parents who try to instill it are few and far between…. In fact with my teaching background I’d go so far as to say many parents nowadays can’t be bothered because they forget that manners, socializing and respect are things that are learned from day one, in the School of Life, taught by teachers known as Parents, instead expecting all these things to be instilled in their child at school, along with the academia we are supposed to be teaching!
    Still, those of us who try, keep it up!!!!

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    • It’s hard to watch, especially with the really young ones. Grown adults cajoling and issuing empty threats (ie. “Do you WANT to go to time out?” while they sit staring at their phone) while the littles run right over them. Told Bear at the practice that it’s these power plays when they’re little that confused me most. When you’re pocket sized, that’s the time to pick them up and remove them yourself. Once they get too big that isn’t an option, but when they’re young they’ll learn when you say let’s go you mean LET’S GO.

      Student attitude and entitlement is part of why I won’t go back into teaching; it’s worse now that they’re so well schooled in what teachers can or cannot do. (Not that I’m saying we should be able to threaten them, but there’s been a distinct shift in power & the kids feel that.) They need it from their parents, yes, but if they’re lucky enough to come across other grownups in their lives who care enough about them to try…well, they’ll be blessed for it.

      Carry on!! 🙂

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  2. Yes ma’am. I often wonder HOW this happens. I get that some kids have their own issues –well, don’t we all? but some of these scenes are just reflections of crap parenting. I shake my head.
    I don’t think it was so common when we were young. I do fear a bit at times, over the potential lack of civility in the world we’ll leave behind.

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    • Agreed. Yes, there are some kids with valid behavioral issues, but based on the adults I see ‘parenting’ most of these youngsters that’s an enormous contributing factor. I told my daughter there was a reason we started establishing those boundaries from their toddler years in the park…so when they got too large for me to pick up and carry over my shoulder we’d already have that parent/child relationship established.

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  3. I was appalled by the kid who told his grandmother to get a life and shut up when she told him to put down a water gun in the pool. APPALLED!! My kids aren’t perfect, but I’m fairly certain it would never cross their minds to say anything close to that disrespectful. Nor would they get away with it if they did.

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  4. I feel the same as you. I think teaching your children respect begins when they are toddlers. If you show them from the outset that certain behaviour will not be tolerated (and you follow up on your threats of punishment), they will show respect towards you when they are older.

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