1.  Girls can be flat out mean.  Something shifts over the summer between fourth and fifth grade – some sort of change in polarity that tosses perfectly level headed girls into a maelstrom of hormones and introduces a whole new hierarchy to the concept of classmates.  Know who your true friends are.  The ones who always have your back and will take your secrets to the grave. Pay very close attention when someone suddenly begins acting inordinately nice toward you; look for their true intentions, and give them time to prove themselves worthy of your friendship.

2.  Knowledge is Power.  Part 1:  Learn all you can every single day.  Every piece of truth will help you on your journey, and you’re meant to do great things.  Part 2:  Protect yourself.  Do not tell someone a secret unless you’d be okay hearing it at recess.  (And no, “I promise I won’t tell anyone” doesn’t negate this.)  There’s a reason Benjamin Franklin said, “Three may keep a secret, if two of them are dead.”

3.  You’re navigating a world of changes – emotionally, physically, socially.  It’s enough to make your head spin.  Remember that the boys are in these waters, too, and may be just as confused. They have their own changes to accept, hormones messing with their bodies, and often new rules in the social order.  Be kind.

4.  Know how to fix the chain on your bike, put air in your tires, run a lap, speak up in class, and stand up to a bully.  Girls need to be able to take care of themselves in a jam, and it’s cool to know how things work.  Physical fitness is important – you don’t have to be fast, but you do need to be healthy, and having a strong mind is just as critical.  Believe in what you have to give to the world, and then do it.

5.  Find at least one thing you’re truly passionate about.  It can be anything as long as the very thought of having a chance to do it excites you.  Your teachers are charged with educational knowledge and a remarkable one helps you develop your strengths, but only you know your passion.  Grab onto that and find a way to make it yours.

Interested in what boys need to know?  Check out yesterday’s post.