when the KKK and middle school collide

You might want to skip this one if you’re looking for the typical lighthearted RFTM fare, or you could play whirl-a-post.  I get it, sometimes you just want a fun read, so if that’s the case just go down the right hand side of your screen and click a tag or visit the Greatest Hits page.  But don’t expect me to bring the snark today.

The KKK sucked it right out of me.

This is the only photo I have that begins to convey my state of mind.

We’ve handled our fair share of racial issues over the last few years, trying to help the kids navigate a world that has, at times, kicked them in the teeth.  I watch them stand strong, again and again, as I tell them they’re beautiful and smart and deserving of love.  I’ve felt anger and sorrow, weariness and pain.  Seeing them hurt makes me ache.

But Tuesday night was something new.  Tuesday brought white hot rage and electrifying fear, bundled up with a healthy dose of what the fuck is wrong with people?!

We were all sitting around the dinner table (yes, I actually made dinner) eating over-salted chicken (oops) and catching up on our day when T-man said there was a kid being racist at school.  He said it so matter of factly, like it was just another thing (which is how it probably feels), so I even had him hang on while I finished talking with BrightSide.  That’s when T-man dropped a real bombshell.

T-man told us the kid had made up a song and was singing it in the boys’ bathroom.  I asked if he could repeat it, and my mouth dropped open as T-man began: “I am the great ol’ wizard man, born to lead the Klu Klux Klan…”

I won’t repeat the rest of this filth.  By the time I’d listened to his matter of fact recitation of beating ni**ers with baseball bats I’d stopped breathing and my vision was a bit hazy.  It was the roar of that white rage descending as my brain tried to process what that punk was singing in school.  Around my kid.  About KKK violence.

Jesus up above, what on earth has this world come to.

Who are these people?  Who hangs white robes and stashes white hoods in their closets?  Who sings this crap around their kids or, worse, teaches it to them as part of their “heritage”?  Who still thinks it’s okay to beat people for their color?!

I like to think I ring in with more than your average tolerance, which means I fall under the “those freaking PC idiots” category for a lot of folks around here.  But I’ll tell you what I have precisely zero tolerance for: this KKK bullshit.  And I’ve lost all desire to be PC about it.

Don’t tell me this is white pride or family heritage or something I can’t understand because I’m “not from these parts.”  These songs are written for ignorant people who cannot stand a world in which they’re no longer called master.  They breed hate and intolerance and a fear of anything different from what’s in their own backyard.  Don’t tell me America is a white country built on white Christian principles.  America was built on land the Native Americans honored and through the back breaking labor of black men, women, and children.  It belongs to all of us, although some had to give more just to survive.

But I’m not a “let’s wipe out all the racists” sort of girl.  I’m a realist.  A problem solver.  Even a peacemaker, if you will.

So here’s what I’d like to suggest.  Do you feel white pride is misunderstood?  That white culture is threatened by the acceptance of other cultures and colors?  That your power stems from being a superior race?  Then by all means, find someplace where you can build a community that supports those values.  I’m sure there’s some land in the middle of the country where like-minded white folks can live in peace and harmony, safe from the offense of blacks in your schools and hispanics in your neighborhoods.  Hell, the polygamists lived there for years.  You can sing your “special” songs to your heart’s content, with no pesky administrators telling your children it’s unacceptable in a school setting.

I bet you can probably even find folks to help you pack.

27 thoughts on “when the KKK and middle school collide

  1. I feel it growing more every day, they are emboldened. We have Muslim neighbors, the wife wears a hijab and dresses very conservatively. The neighbor that lives next door to her recently told me that she stood on her driveway and yelled, “Trump, Trump, Trump” at her, and she was so proud of herself for it. It’s sickening. I hate what is happening.

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  2. I hope you and BrightSide went to that school and rained down some apocolyptic terror on a) the principal b) the parents of that child and c) the school board itself. In no way, shape or form is it ok for that boy to be singing/believing that “song”. I’m sorry your babies have to deal with crap like that.

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    • Don’t you know we’d give anything to get put in a room with that boy’s parents? They’ll never do it nowadays, and I really want to look them in the eye and see how they defend that sort of filth coming from their son’s mouth.

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  3. Abominable. It’s sometimes hard to believe it’s 2017 ! I’d say it’s so much worse in the South, but I wonder. We’ve come a long way, but it seems we have a long way to go. Rant away, and be sure to contact the school admin, the PTA, the school board, any where you can let your voice be heard. Protect your children, your family. Be the mama bear.

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    • I agree, van. One of my first reactions was to run — why do we live here? why don’t we live somewhere more progressive? But hubby pointed out that it’s everywhere, ours just might be a little more in your face. Thanks for the rally cry. Mama bears don’t back down.

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  4. I can’t believe this. I mean, I can. I do, But, I can’t I had seriously hoped that my generation had put racism to rest, but then enough of us turned out to be stupid f’ing racists, and now they, or their children (I’m old enough to have a couple of generations in play) are teaching this crap to children!

    I’m sorry, my comment is turning into a rant. I should stop.

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    • Thanks for adding your voice, Dan — I spent much of Tuesday night turning in circles like this. It can’t be…but it is. But how on earth can THIS kind of hate still be out there? Surely there aren’t so many bigots, except… BrightSide always told me we needed a few respectable funerals. I don’t think we factored in the breeding a new generation before they went part.

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  5. Wow, when I think the younger generations are doing better with human rights and how they look at them. I guess that are always going to be those certain people that just can’t open their damn eyes. I honestly don’t understand how we’re in 2017 and people are still going around say fa*s, d*ke, ni**er, sp*c, etc, it’s seriously sad. I don’t believe in having one race either, I honestly wish the goverment or whomever would come down and just keep every open minded person here and let us start the hell over.

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  6. The most disappointing truth is that the election of a very capable man, who happened to be black, revive hatreds that I thought were part of the past. The opposition often appeared motivated by racism, and condoned racist innuendo directed at the president. The election of Trump has emboldened the most hateful among us to proclaim their narrow-mindedness without restraint, and your sweet son had to experience that bs head on. How can this cycle be repeating itself? I am sick that a lovely young man has to be subjected To garbage. I would inform the SRO and principal.

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    • You hit the nail on the head, Alison. All those people who were moaning and groaning about how the political correctness police had taken over — that saying any little thing that might hurt someone’s feelings would get you jumped on for “no good reason” — they’ve all gotten the green light to remove the filter. Nothing’s off limits, and it’s made the world a sadder place. I’ve been in to see the asst principal, but your suggestion about going to the SRO is something to think about. And I’m wondering if I need to get in with the principal, too.


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  8. How is you son doing? Your daughter? How are you and your husband doing? In this post election nightmare that we are living, I find that people think it is acceptable to put their hatred on display because the President is supported by the KKK. It’s nonsense. It’s unacceptable and we have to be vigilant in stopping out the ignorance in our community and telling parents and children alike that we will not go down without a fight and your hatred or discrimination against others is not welcome in our neighborhood. It’s tough, but we shall overcome.

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    • Okay, Tikeetha, I know I responded on my phone and then it must have been sucked into the ether…
      Thank you for leaving your own thoughts here. I don’t think my son truly grasps the depth of what the boy did. The N word he understands, but the Klan? I’ve had the most honest talk I can with a 12 year old and they still sound like a villain from an evil movie. We’ll have to revisit the issue after some time has passed.
      The brutal truth is that this is a huge adjustment for me. I get discouraged because I simply CANNOT grasp how this idiocy still exists, but I also know that’s because I haven’t had to face it for years and years already. White bubble burst — ice cold reality.
      It also puts me in awe of women and men like you who have carried this fight for decades.

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      • Aww, thank you, but all parents who raise black children have to face this. As parents it is so hurtful and painful because we instinctively want to protect them from ignorance, but we have to explain right and wrong and trust that when they walk out that door, that we’ve instilled enough good in them that the world won’t destroy them before we get them home and love on them and fill up their cup with more goodness. You and your husband just keep filling his cup and he will know that there are just some people intent on hating you no matter what you do, but you’re better than that.

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  9. I’m sorry to hear. Racism isn’t dead contrary to many who insist it is–they simply don’t face it. My oldest sons girlfriend dealt with this a few months ago. She was in our downtown area and some one called her the n word a multitude of times very close to her face. I watched a recording.

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    • I’m sorry this has touched your family, too. There are more people dealing with overt racism than we know, and we have to keep telling their stories. I worry about what your son’s girlfriend went through, when they’re older and out with their friends. It’s hard when so many things seem like they’re out of our control.


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