One of the parts of parenting I struggle with is the spectator aspect. There’s lots of hands on activity to be sure, but we seem to be in a season of watching our young-ish ones test their wings (aka waiting to see if they crash and burn). Watching and waiting is hard. And watching when you know the crash and burn is inevitable? Hell, that’s the hardest part of all.
And self esteem…oh my lawd, the self esteem. How is it I know to the depths of my soul the innate worth of these children, but they just don’t seem to get it? One of mine will go back to kids who are disrespectful and outright cruel over and over, calling them “friends” until they act like turds again. You deserve better. You deserve better.
This week brought the delightful moment when I found myself explaining to one of my children why we never, ever, ever joke about how much the other kid cost. A) We don’t buy and sell people because that is i-l-l-e-g-a-l. B) We should strive to be our best selves, and that comment is nowhere close. C) Sadly, it cuts a little close to the bone.
It took about a month but I finally told T-man why I stopped responding to a certain parent’s texts. I thought I was protecting him, but he’s thirteen and deserves to have all the information when choosing whether to go to someone else’s house. Be friends, don’t be friends, whatever…but you should know his dad made a comment about shielding his daughter from ebonics, so I’m not feeling real cool about the parental aspect over there.
We shared some John Oliver episodes with the kids this week. Sure, some of you might be thinking we’re nuts watching a late night comedian who drops the F bomb, but things get pretty real around here. And it’s been good for them to see an adult stand up on national television and call out what passes for bullshit in this country right now. The episode Oliver did on the Confederate flag was particularly timely.
On a side note, this isn’t adoption related, but the kids’ commentary on cheerleaders at Wednesday’s pep rally was downright hysterical. Boobs, a twerking motion, and those ridiculous skirts all came up. (BrightSide dryly noted that cheerleaders enjoy a rather lax dress code exemption.)
And those are the odds and ends for this week.