Forever Family: voices from around the web #4

“I’m so frustrated with the voices that say you must choose OR thinking. I could just pull every hair out of my head because its everywhere you go.
​Gun lover or banish all guns from the face of the earth….take them all.
Immigrant or terrorist to be feared
Democrat or Republican
​Conservative or Liberal
Left or Right
​Saved by grace or only if we’ve earned it ( whatever hoop to jump through you want to label)
​Kneel or don’t kneel. Patriotic or guilty of Nationalism”

And/Or…Look a Little Deeper: Adoptee Out Loud


“3:  Don’t pour out your adoption story or insist we tell you ours. 

We visited a new church recently where a woman (in a multiracial, biological family) introduced herself, told us all about the children’s program, and then asked, “Now are your kids from the same family?”   

Um, are we girlfriends?  Didn’t we JUST meet?”

Dear Church: 6 Things You Need to Know When an Adoptive or Foster Family Visits: White Sugar, Brown Sugar


“Born a mixed race girl, straight into a system that never had any good intentions for me. My mother was 13, a child herself, and already in foster care. It didn’t take long for her to do what she knew best: run away.

So round and around I went, place to place, family to family…

I learned that I didn’t fit in no matter where I was. I learned that being mixed meant I wasn’t white enough to fit with white people or black enough to fit with black people.

Being a foster child meant no one actually wanted me, even my family who said they “loved me.” 

Being an abandoned child created a long term effect of needing to win approval from others, by any means, so that I didn’t feel like such a heavy and unwanted burden.”

When You Feel Like You Just Don’t Belong – On: Foster Care, Biracial Identity, and More: Natalie Brenner Writes



Her words were hopeful, thoughtful even, as we sat on the giant rock staring out over the ocean. Her eyebrows were raised, her posture stiff, a question on her face, imploring if I was indeed mad at Him or not.

I thought to myself about it, quiet, slow to respond. I sat slouched, but only because my hands were firmly planted on each side of my legs on the rock so I could stare steadily out over the ocean. Steady but relaxed, I halfway shrugged and said, “I don’t think I’m mad at Him, so to speak. But I do think, that if I were, He could handle it. You know? I think He can handle my anger. He seems pretty big.”

God Can Handle Our Angry Feelings: Natalie Brenner Writes

2 thoughts on “Forever Family: voices from around the web #4

Add your 2 cents here:

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s