Food for thought the next time someone tells an adoptee how happy they must be to have a family. As if they sprang forth from an egg or something. Sheesh.

“Adoption involves four parties, the birth family, the adoptive family, the adoptee and the agency. Of those four, can you guess which one has zero rights or say in the process?

That’s right, us, adoptees.

We don’t get to choose if we want to be adopted or not. We don’t choose which family we end up with. We don’t choose whether or not we get seperated from our birth siblings and placed in different homes.”

Adoptees Do Not Need To Be Grateful To Anyone – OnlyBlackGirl: Musings of a Transracial Adoptee