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We’re all children of God.
Let’s set the ground rules.
- I’m working from the premise that the faithful espouse this belief, and
- Don’t let the word God jam you up. Higher power, spirit, Allah, Jehovah, the universe – whatever central force you believe in, that’s what we’re talking about.
You can’t really argue with the core of this statement, but that’s not where the true problem lies. The trouble is what else people mean when they say we’re all children of God. It’s really just another version of “we’re all one race – the human race.” It’s a wash.
Are we all children of God? Yes. Do some of us suffer more solely due to a system grounded in white supremacy? Also yes. Throwing “we’re all children of God” out there when a person of color describes their life experience is dismissive, and it’s done all the time.
God is love, and you are my brother/sister in Christ.
God is love, and the black community’s faith has carried them through more pain than they ever deserved to bear. But I hear this phrase and stop in my tracks. What sort of siblings would tolerate for even one second watching their brother profiled and endangered by everyday activities? Seeing their sister fetishized, sexualized as a young girl and discounted in later education? The hypocrisy of watching our brothers and sisters in Christ drown in this country’s disparity is almost too much to take.
You know what the Good Book says – turn the other cheek.
Right. Except when you’ve been torn down, turned away, chased after, and falsely accused for generations. Maybe – just maybe – we’re past the time for forgiveness.
This nine-year-old boy was falsely accused of sexual assault in a neighborhood deli this week. He and his sister can be heard crying on the video as this white woman “calls” 911 (further investigation shows she faked the call) demanding that police officers be sent to their location. They were terrified – by this woman’s vulgar gestures, her fury, the thought of the police coming, who knows. But this young boy spoke yesterday with the weight of a hundred years on his shoulders as he said, “I don’t forgive this woman.” Can you really blame him?
We believe in a God who loves. And it’s possible for Christians to say racist things. It’s time we started wrapping our brains around both of those statements.
The Small Bites series is a way to break down tough conversations into manageable pieces. I hope you come into this space with an open mind. That being said, I know now what I didn’t know in my twenties and thirties, but I don’t yet know what I don’t yet know. I love hearing your stories and perspectives in the comments. Thank you for being willing to share.
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Such a complex thing. If you start at the social structure, how the church was used as social control. Now it publicising Twitter comments.. I digress… People are mostly trained to follow an authority . Church,even a man in a suit. Even now, many won’t believe a woman on the phone they want to be put through to a man… But the system of authority means personal responsibility is minimised. There are good and bad parts to this. Perhaps the more these things are publicised the more each raindrop wears away the stone of ignorance. Tough and complex,many levels to it.
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It is very complex, for sure. I’m impressed when people break apart pieces of it because they whole thing feels so interdependent to me…
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I have a lot of trouble with the words and actions of a lot of people who call themselves Christians.
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Indeed. And I think we’re doing a poor job of calling out our fellow Christians when they show their collective ass.
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‘We’re all God’s children…one race: the human race!’ has caused me and a lot of people I know to not feel safe (emotionally) at church. It makes me feel like, ‘Do we even serve the same God?’ You’re standing next to me during praise and worship, praying for me, and then complete silence when I want to be totally transparent and open (because I thought church was the place for that) about my struggles with race issues. Or do people only want me to ‘cast my cares upon the Lord’ when my struggles are about forgiveness and loving my neighbor? It’s SOOOO frustrating! I mean, how can we truly be in community with other believers with that elephant in the room suffocating us?
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Yes. This. Church *should* be a safe place – spiritually, emotionally, physically – for every single one of us. I’m so sorry, Laketra. We are failing you.
Thank you for speaking up here.
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