Ah, those days of starry eyed youth when we’d stare all moony at one another and declare ourselves soulmates…
I remember being horrified when I first heard someone say they didn’t believe in the idea of having a soulmate. I was young at the time and very committed to the concept of One True Love. Looking for The One who completes me. Stars and music and swooning over the beauty of it all. When the concept of true love revolves around these sort of all or nothing feels – well, somebody coming along to say “nope, doesn’t work that way” feels a little…scary. Topsy turvy. Like what the hell are we even doing here, man?!
If I didn’t have a soulmate then who would I spend the rest of my days with? HOW WILL I EVER BE HAPPY??
Bwahahaha!
It took a while to grasp a few deep truths.
** I am in charge of my happiness. Not some prince on a white horse. Not some dreamboat who likes to cook. Me.
** Demanding another human being fill every requirement for the perfect companion? That’s a pretty tall order. Talk about putting pressure on a relationship.
** Have you found someone who respects and honors you? Lifts you up in your success and supports you in failure? Are you the best version of yourself when you’re together? Congratulations. You’ve found the mate to your soul.
Linda hosts Stream of Consciousness Saturday. This week’s prompt is “soul/sole. Use one, use both, use ’em any way you like. Enjoy!”
Yep. I love this. Especially this…. I am in charge of my happiness. Not some prince on a white horse. Not some dreamboat who likes to cook. Me.
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Such an important one to remember. 💛
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My soulmate found me AFTER we each learned those deep truths.
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Which makes it all the better. 💛
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🙂 ❤
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Beautifully said. Hope your sea of unpacked boxes has disappeared…
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Thank you! It is VASTLY better around here. Not having to weave my way through cardboard to get to the keurig is doing wonders for my mental health.
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Oh I am so glad I didn’t know the definition of soulmate:
“** I am in charge of my happiness. Not some prince on a white horse. Not some dreamboat who likes to cook. Me.
** Demanding another human being fill every requirement for the perfect companion? That’s a pretty tall order. Talk about putting pressure on a relationship.”
Found mine. Though he likes to cook, doesn’t have a horse, isn’t a prince (I’d hate the paparazzi), and my requirements change so much that he’s have to be a mind-reader. Wany hot-want cold-want hot… you get the picture!
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Indeed. Because what I’d see as perfect at 18 wouldn’t even be close at 29, 40, or 55. Gotta celebrate those winners when we find them.
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In a nutshell! Well said.
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Thanks, Carol!
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How will I ever be happy? When I decide to be happy. I kinda like being in charge so there is that. ;).
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And realizing that it is a choice is half the battle.
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“I am in charge of my happiness.”
That sums it up in a nutshell. Be happy in yourself, for yourself, by yourself and the rest will fall into place.
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Absolutely.
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That’s a pretty good definition of soulmate. I got that. But I learned a long time ago that I am responsible for my happiness. That’s truth you spoke.
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Once I learned the flip side — that I’m not responsible for anyone else’s happiness — there was another big shift.
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Hear, hear! I couldn’t agree more!
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Just wish I’d figured it out a little sooner… 🙂
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How well you are written the key to find true soul mate.
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Everything made a lot more sense once I realized it all came down to me.
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That’s true.
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