Tact is my superpower.
No, seriously, I am my mother’s daughter. I can take harsh observation and couch it in gentler, more palatable terms. Don’t get me wrong, the core meaning is still sharp as a brand new set of Ginsu knives – it’s just in a slightly prettier package.
Not that I always remember to harness my superpower. Like last week – Bear’s in her second season of playing volleyball and I was trying to explain one of the finer sticking points to my dad. Specifically, why the ref kept stepping onto the court to discuss player position.
What I thought was this: Players have to be standing in their set rotation before the ball’s put into play.
What I said was this: Players have to stand in the order the coach lists their numbers. They aren’t allowed to switch positions on the court before the play starts. So like if that girl stinks at the net you can’t just swap in a girl from the back who’s good up there.
BrightSide turned in disbelief as he prompted “If she’s not as strong at the net…” I believe there may have been a bit of eye rolling included – that’s when I processed all the other parents around us and how that must have sounded. Guess my superpower was on the fritz that day.
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Well, that’s valid. Sometimes these things happen 😦
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Whoops-a-daisy. Learn better, do better, that’s the motto.
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Tact is my kryptonite. My bumbling attempts at tact too often just result in me digging a very large hole for myself. And as the line goes. Where you going to hide the soil from your hole – dig another hole.
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Best intentions, blah blah blah. I keep telling myself that even when I fall down on the job at least I tried. 🙂
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Tact is indeed a super power. But we are human after all.
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Accepting the human has been a work in progress for me. I used to get super down on myself for “messing up” — now I (usually) take it in stride and try to do better.
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It is a struggle to accept that we are not as perfect as we think we are.
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Part of that was releasing the expectations I was raised with. Mistakes were equated with screwing up, and screwing up was a very bad thing. Giving myself permission to make mistakes *because I’m human* was big progress.
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That is the biggest step. More power to you!
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Amen ♥️
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Life is all about the learning.
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Speaking as someone who was only good at the net (as setter not hitter) I was always subbed out. My friend and I were the perfect player – she served and played defense then I came in to set. I wonder if they even let you do that any more. I went to a game not all that long ago and it’s definitely not your grandma’s volleyball. I’d be eaten alive if I tried to play today. A whole new level for sure. But boy would I love to be back on the court stinking up the place. lol
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It’s a lot of fun to watch. Totally different from basketball (her first love) so last year we had to get used to this new pace of play. Next thing I knew I’d realize I was hunched over, holding my breath, forcing myself not to yell OVER THE NET because duh, they know that. 🙂
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You can only be so tactful before you become dishonest. Just saying, not always a good idea to not say your truth…
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It’s a fine line, yes. I’ve found “you’re so strong with conveying emotion” vs “yeah, you kinda suck at the harmonies” works fine with the middle school crowd.
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That is not one of my superpowers. In fact at this ripe old age I am still learning to think before I speak. LOL.
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Counting to ten has always been key for me. Sometimes even closing my eyes if the sight of whoever’s in front of me is tempting my sharp tongue.
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Sometimes, words roll out of the mouth without review. Oooops!
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Yep. Totally bypassed the tact filter that afternoon. 😉
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