So what, you’re just gonna cave?
There’s a question that by its nature is always asked with a measure of emotion ranging from disbelief to derision to disapproval. Boy, that’s a whole lotta disses, isn’t it. Come to think of it, someone asking if you’re gonna cave is pretty much pre-dissing your decision. The more mild mannered might ask if you’re giving up or had enough…”caving” implies giving up or giving in when any reasonable person knows it’s time to double down.
And since caving implies a power struggle let’s take a look at some situations where this might apply.
Office warfare. You know, things like who gets the bigger cubicle, who’s responsible for restocking the coffee stash, or whether or not to confront the coworker stealing your lunch from the fridge.
Or parenting. There’s extra tv time or a second dessert or which Halloween costume they get to choose for trick or treating. There’s screen limits and sleepovers and Fruity vs. Cocoa Pebbles. I have to admit sometimes the answer is hell yes, I’m gonna cave this time.
Linda hosts Stream of Consciousness Saturday. This week’s prompt is “cave.” Use it as a noun or a verb. Enjoy!
Kids (and grandkids) can be so persistent. I remember reading that it’s good for kids to get their way occasionally or rebel a little as long as they know who draws the line. I like your idea of conscious caving.
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Oh yes, I definitely agree that it has to be conscious decision making. Probably why parenting is so dang exhausting. 😆
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I remember how exhausting it could be – physically in the early years, then mentally in the teen years, but I did it! I just set boundaries with my son about how long I can take care of my grand daughter – I’ll give them an overnight/24 hours, then I need a day to rest.
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Choosing one’s battles is one thing… and can be wise.
This post got me thinking of the many governors who are caving to the children who don’t want to wear a mask or to sequester… They obviously never did battle with a teenager or a five-yer-old!
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That’s the best analogy I’ve heard yet!
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I am with Sadje. Choosing one’s battles is wisdom. A lesson hard to learn somethimes.
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Yes indeed. It took me a *very* long time to embrace this concept. My younger self definitely leaned more into the CONTROL side of things.
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With age comes wisdom. Or so they say.
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Cave can be positive … to cease resisting is another meaning. We resist so much for a variety of reasons, some of them downright silly. At least in my case. To stop resisting is liberating. Like Sadje says, picking your battles.
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To look at is as “cease resisting” is excellent. Thanks, J-Dub, I love this perspective.
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LOL. I’m gonna cave too. Well done, Laura.
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Sometimes it’s just good self-care.
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Choosing ones battles and when to give in is a sign of a wise person.
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Absolutely.
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😉👍
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And I thought Momma Bears don’t cave.
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Not on the important stuff! 😆
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I so like this. I think I’ve moved from caves to caverns.
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Ooh, caverns. Good one.
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An interesting usage of the word, Laura. I get this post completely. Have a wonderful weekend.
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Thank you. Hope you’re having a great weekend, too!
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