In your opinion, do May/December romances ever work?
I think it’s possible. A lot seems to depend on when in life two people meet, what they have in common, and how they build a relationship. I’ve known several couples with ten or more years difference between them that have a special connection so I’d say it all depends on the people involved.
What physical action or gesture do you find romantic?
It’s the little things. Brushing hair back off my face, holding hands just because, calling just to see how the day’s going – small gestures that make me feel seen and loved.
What is your idea of a romantic dinner?
I’m not gonna lie, it starts with one I haven’t cooked. After that it looks very pre- ‘rona…at a comfortable restaurant with really good food and excellent drinks where you can sit for hours and hours without someone batting an eye.
Is ‘love’ a real ‘thing’ or merely a physical chemical response and brain activity pulling our emotional strings?
Yikes, Melanie, this got all up in my science brain. It’s probably important to note my science brain is a hodgepodge of cloud formations, blood type, the periodic table (the fact that it exists, not the information itself), and frog dissection. So I’d say love is as real a condition as anything else humans believe in and leave it at that.
How do you show your loved ones that you love them?
I think the best way to do that is to know how they experience love. Some people in my life feel loved when I show I care through acts of service. Others want to hear how I feel, then there are ones who feel loved when I make time to spend with them. Showing somebody I love them can mean anything from getting up early to make them breakfast to sitting through a rom-com marathon.
Sparks from a Combustible Mind hosts Share Your World.
I read your answer above to the how do you show love, and thought, “I’ll bet she read Love Languages” and see in the comments that I was right. I’m usually skeptical of such books but that one was very useful, as it showed in your answer of how you demonstrate affection depends on who you are “talking” to and what they need. (Lucky them! Smart you!)
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It was mind blowing! All those years I couldn’t figure out what the hubby’s damage was — finally figured out I was showing him love in my love language. His is acts of service so making him dinner is way more than just food. Pretty fascinating.
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One of my most used phrases is ‘well science wasnt like that when I was at school’.
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Yep. It’s that dang “new science” that gets me every time. 😆
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Thanks, Laura for Sharing Your World! It’s good to get all up in the science now and then, keeps us on our toes! 😉 LOL. Great answers all, you’ve obviously got ‘love’ in your life!
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Thanks, Melanie. These were fun questions.
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Laura, I enjoyed reading your thoughts on such relevant topics. The small gestures comment is terrific and I love the examples.
As for the science of love, I unexpectedly watched a documentary called “I AM,” about what makes us happy. It included sociologists, cardiologists, religious and science leaders/ scholars and humanitarians and one of many learnings was the following. Our hearts give off a magnetic impulse that can be felt by another a few meters away. So, if someone nearby makes your heart flutter, then the instigator can feel that. Now, the across the room stuff, is an exception, but can make you tongue tied as well.
The major conclusion of the movie goes beyond love, but is quite simple. “Money does not buy you happiness, but the absence of money can make you unhappy.” Once we have enough to provide a roof over our heads and food on the table for our family, we tend to be happier. Keith
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You’ve put this perfectly, Keith. I cannot understand how people aren’t good with having *enough* – not when there are so many that can be helped with even a small gift.
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Analize or accept ? There is a time to take out the pencil and the notebook. And there is a time to leave it put away. That is why the phrase ‘Stop and smell the roses’ contains the word ‘stop’.
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Perfectly put, John.
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Great answers. You take love seriously. That’s a good thing.
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Thanks, Dan. I found the 5 Love Languages book really insightful.
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I think you’re spot on with your answers
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