SoCS – the power of three

I recently revisited one of my old guilty pleasures, Charmed.  Gotta love Netflix – all the crap television you’ve ever watched, ready to waste your time on another go ’round.

In case you missed this particular tv show, it tells the story of three sisters (four, once Shannen Doherty supposedly went a little woo-woo and they had to bring in another “power of three” character) who come into their powers once they’re reunited in their childhood home.  Cue sisters struggling with identity issues as they battle the forces of evil to save the innocent.

Yeah.  It’s pretty much as bad as it sounds.

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Forever Family: adoptees’ voices

I’ve tried to approach Forever Family posts from different viewpoints, to make them a diverse look at adoption issues overall.  But in the end they’ve naturally been written from an adoptive parent’s perspective (aka mine).  Even my posts discussing things the kids struggle with are still second hand – my interpretation of their experience. 

I thought I might look for some firsthand resources to explore today.

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doesn’t everyone keep a rolling anti-bucket list?

I’ve reached a peculiar stage in life.  One where I know the famous people who die instead of simply being familiar with names in the headlines.  Almost all of my friends are either married or divorced, and many have kids who are middle school aged or older.  More girlfriends than not are dealing with gray hair, and discussing aches and pains isn’t exactly an unusual topic of conversation.

I find as I tilt toward the second half of my life that there are certain experiences I most decidedly want to miss.

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gratitude: the power of REM cycles

It’s amazing what a decent night’s sleep can do for a person.

I mean really good sleep.  In a room that’s not too hot, on a bed that’s just the right amount of firmness.  With a comfortable pillow and earplugs that dampen even the noisiest dog nails to silence.

We’re talking eight to nine hours of solid sleep.  No tossing and turning; no waking up every hour because my nose is stuffy or my head is raging.  No kids tapping my shoulder because they don’t feel good.  No dogs scuffling around or dropping their paws on me so I’ll let them outside for a midnight pee.

540 minutes of Peace and Quiet with a few decent REM cycles thrown in for good measure.


My post as part of Colline’s Gratitude Project.

it’s almost time for high fives and salsa dancing

We’ve got spirit
yes we do,
we’ve got spirit
how ’bout you?

Oh, these long, long days of elementary school…reading logs and flash cards.  Homework folders, #2 pencils, and letter grades.  Field days and cafeteria drama.  Good times.

After enrolling as runny nosed midgets who can’t walk in a line, kids slowly adapt to school culture.  They learn to take turns in the bathroom and use up all the paper towels.  They figure out which kickballs are the good ones and how to get an extra turn on the tire swing at recess.  They even gain an appreciation for certain cafeteria foods.

By the time kids move on to middle school they’ve morphed into nearly functioning humans.

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Share Your World 4/17/17

When writing by hand do you prefer to use a pencil or pen?

Pen.  Which is weird because I’m absolutely positively nutty about mistakes.  I can handle a scratch out or two, but much more than that and I’m fighting an itchy hand longing to throw the whole thing out and start again.  Still, I prefer the feel of a pen gliding across the paper to pencil scratches.

Would you rather be an amazing dancer or an amazing singer?

I’d choose singer.  Let’s put aside the fact that this simply is a lot more likely (hello, two left feet) and look at the other reasons: singing brings me joy, I’ve always wanted to have one of those incredible voices that stops people in their tracks, and there are powerhouse singers who are able to share their talent for many years.

If you were on a debate team, what subject would you relish debating?

Shoot, you’d think this would be an easy question considering I have an opinion on most everything except sports teams, but I’m drawing a blank.  I suppose I’d say basically any human rights issue.

What are you a “natural” at doing?

Sprints.  I’ve always been fast, then I ran track my senior year and got my form tweaked a little so I improved even more.  I took off running at the dog park last week – I’d forgotten how good it feels to hit that moment when your stride is long and you feel like you’re flying.  Unfortunately I’m (ahem) older so something usually ends up aching these days.

Optional Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up? 

We spent some time at the lake last week, which is always a good way to decompress.  I saw herons, hawks, turtles, geese, butterflies, and a really cool blue-tailed skink.  Plus I got to watch a dog leap into the lake to swim after a couple of Canadian geese.

Can you believe I had to look at my calendar to see what’s going on this week?!  I’ve been two steps behind for a few days now.  This week I’m looking forward to having some time just for myself.

Cee’s Share Your World is a weekly feature – all are welcome to join in.

What’s going on in your world?

parenting in the digital world

As we inch closer and closer to T-man’s 13th birthday – and since he’s begun to dip his toe into the Instagram world – I’ve been grateful to find resources with some parenting advice.  Something a little more concrete than buckle up and hold on tight.

“[After studying social media posts what] these researchers found was largely consistent with recent reports from the Pew Foundation, which suggested that most teenagers 13 to 17 were generally happy with their connected lives online, and believed that hanging out virtually strengthened their offline relationships.

‘Being 13’ provides an asterisk of sorts to that rosy outlook: These teenagers, at the youngest end of the spectrum, valued their online connectedness but also described in more detail the ways the specific online interactions affected them…social media had great power to affect their day-to-day emotions in ways a parent might regard with suspicion.  One child said she took 100 to 200 pictures of herself to get a good selfie; another regularly posted images on Instagram seeking specific forms of approval only to receive silence in return.  Many spent hours scrolling through the images of their peers’ lives online…

Here’s how to guide, help and monitor your child as she joins social media.”

Seven Ways Parents Can Help 13-Year-Olds Start Their Social Media Lives Right – The New York Times