we have a new world order and nobody bothered to tell me

“Do you have any children?”

“No.  My husband has cystic fibrosis so we weren’t able to have kids.”

“Oh.”

“We tried to adopt in 2015 but they told us no.”  [voice drops to a whisper]  “Unless you’re single or gay you don’t get the kids today.”


Jesus, Mary, and Joseph – what on earth?!


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Forever Family: in the news

In adoption related news lately…  

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‘CSI: NY’ Actor Opens Up About Becoming a Single Dad After Adopting A Son

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Mom’s Heartbreaking Post Urges Parents To Teach Their Kids About Differences

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Deportation a ‘Death Sentence’ to Adoptees After a Lifetime in the U.S.

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Couple To Adopt 7 Foster Siblings Who Were Split Among 4 Homes

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Why This Dad Is Fighting JPMorgan Chase For Equal Parental Leave

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Same-Sex Parents Still Face Legal Complications

Forever Family: baby daddies and the issues they leave in their wake

Major. Writer’s. Block.

Today’s post is supposed to be about birthfathers – it says so right there on the blog calendar.  The way they’re ever present even through the longest absences, the questions that linger, how the struggle is more challenging for T-man… 

But I’m sitting here, pen in hand, utterly unable to string together a series of coherent thoughts today. Looks like we’re going with stringing plain old regular thoughts.

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Forever Family: odds and ends #3

Another collection from my world.

It’s been a roller coaster of a spring, one that’s made me feel like I’ve got a split personality.  For someone who’s done so much work over the last eighteen months I find I’m remarkably swooshy – one day I’ve moved past an issue, the next I totally reverse my position, the week after I’m torn equally between the two.  It’s hard to sort things out when everything feels genuine in the moment.

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Forever Family: voices, young and old

The Diner

a friend told me she saw a girl that could have been my sister
i rushed down to the diner but unfortunately missed her
so everyday after school i grabbed myself a table
and waited like a desperate fool as long as i was able
and after several weeks of that i've written off the place
for no one there or anywhere is serving up my face

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(source)

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Forever Family: adoptees’ voices

I’ve tried to approach Forever Family posts from different viewpoints, to make them a diverse look at adoption issues overall.  But in the end they’ve naturally been written from an adoptive parent’s perspective (aka mine).  Even my posts discussing things the kids struggle with are still second hand – my interpretation of their experience. 

I thought I might look for some firsthand resources to explore today.

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