gratitude: when the marathon becomes a sprint (aka: the Nike Hallelujah)

My shopping experiences with Bear have born a greater resemblance to marathons than sprints.  The girl’s never met a store she didn’t want to browse, and the concept of window shopping eludes her.  Every aisle, sometimes twice, running commentary the whole time. 

What can I say?  The girl loves to shop.

Except a single glorious experience when it came to back to school shoe shopping.

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Stereo

Beautiful. Poignant. Tragic. Inspiring.
All this and more from a 13 year old artist. 
Thanks to The Green Rocking Buddhist for sharing. Please take a few minutes to change your perspective. 

The Green Rocking Buddhist

Stereo – a film about reversed gender stereotypes.

Written, Directed, and Edited by Ella Fields, 13 years old.

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offensive t-shirt seams, temporary body art, and the pointless pursuit of de-sassing teens

Leave it to my youngest to bring up back to school shopping.  In July.  While on vacation.

I guess one could praise Bear for her foresight and responsibility.  Me?  I fell back on Advanced Parenting 301.  I said I didn’t want to think about it until August.

And dammit, here we are.

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the blessing of girls (and how we’re failing them)

The blessing of girls.  Their tough and tender souls.  Their passion, their wit, and the way they cut straight through your bullshit to get to the core of the matter.  The size of their hearts and the strength in their fight.

And the power of girls.  How their intuition and empathy help them become outstanding natural leaders.  Their vision of what is as well as what could be.  Their instinctive belief that all things are possible.

But oh, what we’ve done to them…

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Sunday Snapshot: our tornado

There’s no greater joy than watching Bear grow into herself as she revels in her strength.  She is a powerhouse – a tornado raging through life, confident that her courage and convictions will carry her over the finish line.

Our girl: beauty, bravery, strength, love.  It’s quite a sight to see.

cheeky, extra cheeky, and the pursuit of full coverage

Bear’s turning out to be a pretty fun chick.  Funny, smart, silly…opinionated and not the least bit afraid to say what she thinks.  Hanging out with her is a good time.  Can she be a little hormonal at times?  Sure.  But then again, so can I.

Me and my girl, my girl and me.

Which is how the two of us have managed to survive not just jeans shopping but the pursuit of the ultimate retail unicorn:  swimsuits.

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Sunday Snapshot: you are worthy

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February 2017

Lessons for our Daughter

You are worthy.

Helping you prepare for the father/daughter dance was a precious gift for me.

It’s not your fancy dress and shoes I’ll remember years from now.  It’s carrying an armload of dresses into the fitting room together.  It’s seeing you decide what makes you feel good.  It’s watching you twirl in each dress and laughing ourselves silly over nothing at all.

You sit patiently as my fingers work braids into your hair, and with each one I’m weaving my love into your heart.

You take my breath away when you’re zipped into your dress, and wearing your grandmother’s earrings is my undoing.  I explain they are happy tears but you fold me into your arms anyway, accepting my love and giving yours in return.

We see you, inside and out, and are dazzled by your beauty.  Everyone you love should be willing to recognize your true self and celebrate you for all you are.

You should see yourself for who you truly are.  Recognize your gifts and live into your potential.  You bring your own light into this world.

The look on your face when your dad pulls up is priceless.  Remember this.  Anyone you give your heart to should make you feel as if you’re about to begin a new adventure together.

Someone who cares about you will show respect.  Walking you to the car, opening your door, looking for ways to make your day better – the little things can be the most telling. 

Life will never be perfect.  Those you love should bring you joy and help share your sorrows.  You may squabble, but you should also be able to work through it.  In the grand scheme of things, the scales should always tip enough that you are happy to see one another at the end of the day.

Stand tall, sweet girl.  You are loved truly and deeply.

And know that you are worthy.