SoCS (belated) – reality check

The lovely Linda posts her stream of consciousness prompt on Fridays.  I saw this topic come across my feed, but I was off the grid this weekend so I wrote my post longhand.  (I’m old school like that.)  I’m now transcribing it, word for word, punctuation mark for punctuation mark, without a bit of day after editing.  Pinky promise.


The ’70s were a rough and tumble time to be a kid.  There was no bubble wrap parenting when kids played unsupervised until the streetlights came on.  Playdates were unheard of when kids just congregated at one house until they were fed and kicked out to another.

It left a lot of opportunity for, um, adventure.

“Why are you back so early?”  Well, Kim tried to jump the creek and crashed her bike in front of me.  Then I ran over her leg and she had to go home.  It was awful.  “But did she die?”

“How was your day?”  Great until they served tuna salad in the cafeteria.  “Okay, but did you die?”

“Why are there 40 BandAid wrappers on the counter?”  We were playing roller derby in the cul-de-sac.  “So?”  I fell a few times.  “But did you die?  No.  So don’t waste all our BandAids – money doesn’t grow on trees.

Linda’s SoCS prompt inspires fun writing.  This week’s prompt was “book title.”  Instructions: Take the title of the book you’re currently reading or the one sitting closest to you when you’re ready to write your SoCS post and base your post on the title only.  My book is But Did You Die? Setting the Parenting Bar Low by A Bunch of Know It Alls.

SoCS – that Sam-I-Am!

We sure do love us some Dr. Seuss in this house.  I have a number of favorites.  (Can someone even have “a number” of favorites?)  They’re all books that I would happily read over and over again.

The 500 Hats of Bartholomew Cubbins, Horton Hatches the Egg, The Sneetches, and The Lorax – all terrific books we read more times than I can count.  But Linda’s prompt can only bring one book to mind – the classic Green Eggs and Ham.

“That Sam-I-Am
That Sam-I-Am!

I do not like
That Sam-I-Am

Do you like
Green eggs and ham?

I do not like them,
I do not like
Green eggs and ham.”

For someone who’s not a fan of tongue twisters, this is probably one of the last books you’d think I’d love.  The rhymes tumble and twist, rumbling around in my mouth like a couple of marbles as the pace picks up, and I couldn’t help but smile as I barreled my way through the bevy of situations in which the character would not like green eggs and ham.

Nothing would move him to try them – not a house or a mouse or a box or a fox.  Not on a train, in the rain, with a goat, or on a boat.  The illustrations became more and more ridiculous, as did the character’s refusal to consider even the possibility that green eggs and ham might be worth trying.

I’m pretty sure this book resonates with all parents of young picky eaters.  Besides that, though, it is just plain fun to read.  The tongue twisters weren’t the hardest part…that was managing not to say I told you so when green eggs and ham turned out to be delicious.

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Linda’s Stream of Consciousness Saturdays are open to anyone who’d like to participate.  Pop over and give her blog a visit.  This week’s prompt is “ham.”

SoCS – my world of words

I’m at a bit of a loss here.

Despite the thousands of books we read during their childhood…even after watching me pull a book from my bag for years…in spite of the fact that my whole world is made of words…I’ve got a kid who doesn’t like to read.

It’s like an alternate universe where up is down and chocolate tastes like broccoli.

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Forever Family: we all want to be wanted

Bear’s recently begun struggling to resolve some uncomfortable feelings about her adoption. This is just a bit unsettling for me.  She’s always been our happy go lucky girl, so it’s tough to hear some of the painful things she’s going through.  On the other hand, I’m extraordinarily grateful that at least she’s talking about it.

Bear is definitely a daddy’s girl, so BrightSide is typically the one she’ll open up to first.  Last month she dropped a real doozy on him, and after they spent some time together he asked me to join them in her room to talk.

Bear’s sadness that day?  “I don’t feel like I was wanted.”  And a piece of my heart broke at the pain and sorrow in her voice.

flying geese

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Words Crush Wednesday – The Little Prince

“People have forgotten this truth,” the fox said.  “But you mustn’t forget it.  You become responsible forever for what you’ve tamed.  You’re responsible for your rose.”

– Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince

Words Crush Wednesday Challenge

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the pitfall of perfection

I’ve been reading this book called The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children by Dr. Shefali and it is kicking my butt left and right.

Seriously.  It’s the kind of book where I’ve highlighted every third sentence, and most chapters have me hitting myself upside the head with a real lightbulb (aka: DUH!) moment.  Or ten.

When I’ve got my ducks in a row – or at least feel like I can form a coherent thought on the whole thing – I’ll post a book review and talk about some of the parenting insights I’ve gained.  As for today, though, let’s look at a post from Dr. Shefali’s website called The Idea of Perfection.

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Sunday Snapshot: our wicked hedonist


"The Wicked Smile"

"Please, please, I think I haven't eaten
for days."

What?  Ricky, you had a huge supper.

"I did?  My stomach doesn't remember.
Oh, I think I'm fading away.  Please
make me breakfast and I'll tell you
something you don't know."

He ate rapidly.

Okay, I said.  What were you going to 
tell me?

He smiled the wicked smile.  "Before we
came over, Anne already gave me my breakfast," he said.


Be prepared.  A dog is adorable and noble.
A dog is a true and loving friend.  A dog
is also a hedonist.

Dog Songs by Mary Oliver ©2013

if you look up “paradise” in the dictionary…

BrightSide and I took the kids to Kauai earlier this month, and paradise really is the only word to describe that island.  We’ve visited the big island of Hawaii and Maui over the years, but Kauai is far and away our favorite one.


It’s fairly undeveloped.  Yes, there are hotels and restaurants and such, but it isn’t built up commercially like the other islands we’ve visited.  Since there isn’t a road that travels around the entire island, there will always be a part of Kauai that is unreachable by vehicle.  It’s a buffer that ensures the Na Pali Coast (on the northwest portion of the island) will forever remain untouched. Kauai embodies the beauty of the natural world, and visitors of every kind (from mild-mannered tourists to hard-core adventurers) can find ways to appreciate this island and its culture.


the Na Pali Coast

Our family is blessed to be able to travel to some amazing places through BrightSide’s company, but he and I decided long ago to wait until the kids were old enough to appreciate Hawaii before taking them.  I mean, we’re talking about a whole lot of travel (about 10-11 hours in the air), airport time, plus a six-hour time difference, and there was no way we were doing that so they could see “just another pretty beach” and beg to play in the pool.  Until they were ready to appreciate the beauty of the island and the unique Hawaiian culture, we were committed to vacationing closer to home.

Until this year.  This year they were finally ready.


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