“Despite your best efforts, people are going to be hurt when it’s time for them to be hurt.”
– Haruki Murakami
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Man, this lesson is hard.
As a person, as a parent, I have a history of fighting like hell whenever the people I love got hurt. We’re talking sound and fury and a bit of that whole wailing and gnashing of teeth thing – it hasn’t been pretty. I’ve given myself plenty of emotional bruises fighting against reality.
I do better these days, but this is still easiest to see in retrospect. Divorce? Painful, life altering, unjust, unfair…but damned if every one of those people has grown from the experience. Peer pressure? Painful, life altering, unjust, unfair…but sure enough, the kids are better off for it once enough time has passed.
We all take our turn when it’s time to be hurt.
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Thanks so much, Cadie! What a lovely Thursday kindness. 💛
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As any parent knows is exactly right. And to think I was hurting my kids more by trying to prevent the hurt. Sure is hard to watch though. Except in retrospect when we look back see how much they’ve grown.
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*So* hard to watch. Sometimes I have to tag hubby in so he can remind me to let things run their course…
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That definitely helps.
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Ooooh! That’s a good one. So beautifully written and so true!
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I found it rather striking…
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A reasonable amount of defense and support is good. It helps us learn and grow from the hurt. One good thing about getting older is we don’t have as much teeth gnashing.
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Definitely. I look back now and see where it was necessary rally-the-troops and where it was senseless gnashing. I look forward to less and less of the latter.
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I’m happy for your sister!
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Divorce…I have absolutely grown because of it. It was worth the painful moments to now be in a state of peace and happiness. No fighting and the only bruises I have are from bumping into things when I’m not looking.
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Bless it, isn’t that the truth. I was literally just telling my daughter how I fought against it when my sister told me her husband left. Not because I couldn’t stand losing him but because I couldn’t stand the idea of her going through that pain. But she is so much stronger now – she’s the healthiest she’s ever been really. I thought I knew better. Nope.
So glad to hear you’ve come out the other side into a better place. 💛
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The only solution I can see is be the on who causes all the hurt. I guess I have to become some sort of Attilla the Hun type guy or maybe I’ll just suck it up 🙂
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Well dang, THERE’S a solution I hadn’t thought of…way to go outside the box. 😆
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We hurt and then we learn the lesson, hopefully not to repeat it again.
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Unfortunately sometimes it takes me a couple tries before the lesson sticks… 🙄
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We do grow away from those experiences, but we never want to see them occur. Great post, Laura.
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Thank you, Dan. It brought a lot to mind when I was working on it last night…
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Hi Laura, it’s been a while! Hope you’re doing well!! Great post!
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Hey! Good to see you again. I just popped over and read your post on — umm, life? high school? life in and after high school? people? Sorry, this is a terrible summary sentence, but your observations on pressures that continue on after the teen years is dead on. Have a great day!
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Lol! Thanks for reading! Appreciated!
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