SoCS – the pain and angst of guessing games

I don’t like guessing games.  Never have, never will.

I don’t want to spend time hemming and hawing over what might be in the box when someone gives me a present.  I’m convinced I’ll guess wrong and make them feel badly, or maybe I’ll guess right and ruin the surprise.  Either way, I’d rather just graciously accept the gift, thank you very much.

I come off as a big old fuddy duddy but I hate most guessing games that children insist you do, too.  What’s behind my back?  When’s my birthday?  What’s my middle name?  Nothing I want to spent time thinking about.  Also, per the kid thing, those jars in classrooms where you’re supposed to guess the number of items in the jar – UGH.  I actually had to teach this skill one year and it almost killed me: Now kids, here’s how you use estimation to determine a logical guess for how many jelly beans are in the – when what you really want to do is shout out THREE HUNDRED FORTY-SEVEN and be done with it.

Guess the sex of the baby.  Guess what’s for lunch.  Guess your best friend’s dream job.  Guess when the baby will be born.

Nope, nope, nope nope nope.

Call me a fuddy duddy if you will.

Linda’s SoCS prompt this week is (no surprise here) “guess.”  You should click over and check out who else participated.

Share Your World 8/7/17

What was the last URL that you bookmarked or saved?

How long has Donald Trump been president?  Seriously, there’s a website for this.

Do you believe in the afterlife?  Reincarnation?

I believe in an afterlife, but I’m cool with what most other faiths believe happens after death.  The only concept I struggle to grasp is the Buddhists’ belief that achieving nirvana leads to the extinguishing of a life force altogether upon death.  I’m working on processing that one.

If you were or are a writer do you prefer writing short stories, poems or novels?

I write some poetry, though not as well as many others do.  My favorite genre is very similar to the blog – first person narrative in short stories or commentary.

What inspired you this past week?  Feel free to use a quote, a photo, a story, or even a combination. 

Watching the herons swoop across the lake.  I always enjoy seeing these graceful birds, even when they’re standing like statues at the shoreline, searching for food like a cat stalking prey.  I rarely see more than one but several times last week I spotted two flying together, swooping into the tree line to find a more peaceful resting place.  It was beautiful.

Cee’s Share Your World is a fun Monday blogging prompt.

SoCS – two philosophers walked into a bar…

High bars, low bars…some say how successful you feel depends on where you set your goal line.  

I’m not sure how I feel about this philosophy.  I mean, in some instances it makes sense.  Going into a Saturday hoping to have a good day may seem like setting a low bar to some, but if setting the bar low means you find pleasure in a cup of coffee and walking the dog then who am I to argue? 

Then again, aiming to graduate college with whatever GPA constitutes “passing” strikes me as a bar set far too low.  Little to aim for, no incentive to challenge yourself – I think some folks sell themselves short when they’re cruising on Ds and keep on rolling.

So where’s the happy medium?  (And you can’t say average.)

My kids aim high.  In school, in sports, in more ways than I probably know, T-man and Bear want to achieve.  I’m trying to help them find balance, find a way to live peacefully even when life doesn’t hit those high notes.  It’s a work in progress.  I could say the same for me.

Linda’s stream of consciousness prompt this week is “high/low.”

SoCS – head, shoulder, knees, and toes (knees and toes)

My limbs have always been a source of…I don’t know what the word is.  Amusement?  Oddness?  Simultaneous strength and weakness?  Whatever it is, when Linda’s SoCS prompt was “limb” the first place my mind flew is these arms and legs ‘o mine. 

I was a scrappy kid, one my dad jokingly referred to as “long neck and skinny legs.”  Not “jokingly” as in it wasn’t true; more like it was so true you just had to laugh.  Stork-like wouldn’t have been a poor description either.

I had this bizarrely long neck and skinny, knobby legs.  My knees looked nothing like the silky smooth models from Nair commercials – my bumps and knots defied every razor’s attempt to shave without drawing blood.

My lower (lowest?) extremities aren’t much better.  These bony ankles jut out, knocking themselves against furniture and each other every chance they get.  The odd bumps on the sides of my feet have made sitting “criss cross applesauce” akin to penance, and my big toes?  We do not speak of the big toes.

My elbows are pointy and bony, a ridiculous display of the awkward phase I never grew out of.  I guess my body didn’t get the memo that middle school was supposed to be the gawky years because my limbs have carried this awkwardness right into my forties.  But, as silly as my limbs might be, it’s hard to be too awful mad at them.  They’ve seen me through the years, good and bad, right up until this moment.  Who knows, maybe if I’d been one of those Nair knee girls I’d have ended up snotty and entitled.

That’s the story I’m going with, anyway.

Cee’s Stream of Consciousness prompt this week is “limb.”

SoCS – the things you find way up high

I gotta admit, our ceilings wig me out a little.

(Psst.  Come closer.  I’m about to talk about what things look like inside our house which, I might add, is not how things look outside our house.  BrightSide works hard to keep the yard, etc, looking good and now here I go, throwing wide the front doors.)

I mean, I love that they’re high.  BrightSide says they’re a little too high, utilities-wise, but I do love a room that doesn’t feel like it’s smashing you into the floor.  That wonderful height makes them, well, challenging to clean…and, if I’m honest, it’s not like cleaning my ceilings was already high on my list of things to do.  Add the fact that I have to screw an extension on the scrubby bristle brush thingie and now we’re talking a chore that’s ranked below Tupperware organization.

You can imagine how low that one is.

So since we live out here in the nature and such, critters like our house.  Critters like spiders, among other things we shall not think about, which means I do have to keep an eye out for errant webs or those weird single strands that connect a cupboard to the ceiling – I mean, what’s that all about, a transit system from the kitchen to the family room?  At any rate, for some reason (probably that whole survival of the species thing) the spiders like to leave webs high, which is weird because at least 75% of the time we kill them as they scramble across the floor.  Sorry, nature lovers, but inside the house is my domain.

Wow, I’m rambly this evening.

It’s always fun to see exactly how long I can stand it before hauling out that equipment to brush off ceiling corners and such, and then it’s also super fun to see how many cobwebs (those aren’t the same as spider webs, right?) have snuck into my nooks and crannies.  Well, not MY nooks and crannies, because I would surely notice if that was going on…


Linda’s SoCS prompt this week is “sealing/ceiling.”  I had it written.  I thought I had it scheduled.  Looks like last week’s Saturday lands on Monday.

Share Your World 7/10/17

How do you like to spend a rainy day?

Watching movies, taking a nap, reading a good book, and blogging.

List at least five favorite treats. (They do not have to be sugary).

Tortilla chips and queso.  Really good pizza.  Warm, buttery croissants.  An old fashioned hot fudge sundae.  Delicious coffee cake.

Where’s your favorite place to take out-of-town guests?

A show at DPAC (Durham Performing Arts Center) or dinner at the Five Star Gas Station.  This is literally a gas station that serves amazing food cooked by the chef next door.  Current menu choices include Duck Salad, Red Wine Braised Beef Short Ribs, and Beer Braised Pork Carnitas.  I’ve also enjoyed a delicious scallop succotash there.

You are trapped in an elevator, who would you want to be trapped with?

I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t matter who was with me seeing as being trapped in an elevator is the sixth circle of hell, but…BrightSide, gem, and sista-friend would all be great at passing the time and hopefully love me enough that they wouldn’t strangle me for being all freaked out and spazzy.

Optional Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?

We had safe travels with family last week.  I got to see three areas of the country I’d never visited before, plus no one got lost in the airport.  So good on us.

This week I’d like to find a little more laid back time.  I need to recharge my batteries a bit before heading into phase 2 of the summer.

Cee’s weekly Share Your World post is always a good time.

What’s happening in your world today?

Share Your World 4/3/17 (belated)

For your main meal do you prefer sweet and sour, hot and spicy, spicy and sweet, bitter, salty, bland or other?

Whoa, that’s a lot of choices.  I guess I rarely crave sweet for my main meal these days – sometimes for a side or dessert, but not main courses.  I’d have to say I lean toward salty, a little spicy, and hot (temperature wise).  Never cold and never bland.

Where do you hide junk when people come over?

(Cover your eyes if you visit my house.)  Clean main rooms are our priority, so any errant piles get shifted to the office (ssshh) or the master bedroom (even more sssshh).  Funny enough, the kids had a sleepover recently and midway through the evening I found Bear and her friend curled up in our room, playing a game on the iPads.  Our room.  The messiest freaking room in the house that day.  Sigh…

What daily habit would you like to introduce to your life?

While I agree with Joey that there are already plenty of things to do in a day, it’s hard not to say five minutes of pickup time.  That would make a huge difference in our house.  I guess I just have to get over the mental block of being too tired at the end of the day to pick up one room.

If you were to perform in the circus, what would you do?  

Okay, so here’s the thing…I don’t like the circus.  I know, I know…American institution, rite of passage, yada yada yada.  But I’ve always looked at the animals and felt just a little sad for them.  BUT.  If I were kidnapped by the circus, then I’d introduce the acts.  I have enough teacher in me to psych a crowd up, no public speaking issues, and no other talents that would be worth putting on (circus) display.

Optional Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?

Last week T-man enjoyed basketball camp and Bear did indeed love the sleep away camp as much as we knew she would.  (She’d had some doubts over the last month or so.)  I was grateful to see them both enjoying aspects of the world that they particularly love.

This week I’m looking forward to quality time with BrightSide’s family and seeing places I’ve never visited before.  It’s been pretty exciting already.

Cee’s Share Your World questions are fun for everyone.

What’s happening in your world?

Share Your World 6/26/17

What goal are you working on now?

Horribly embarrassing my children at least once a week.  This presents a greater challenge than usual in the summertime seeing as car rider lines provide ample daily opportunity to horrify them with riotous car dancing, but I’m doubling down.

What is one thing you’re glad you tried but would never do again?

Tennis.  We don’t speak of it.

Did you choose your profession or did it choose you?

My first profession chose me.  Teaching called me from a young age, though I don’t think I truly embraced it until my first year in college.  I’ve been choosing my professions since I left teaching.  It’s worked out pretty well so far.

Have you ever gotten lost?

Oh my, yes.  I have a particularly horrible sense of direction – none, really – and it’s gotten me into trouble more than once.  The most recent time was when I was driving T-man to a friend’s house on this tiny back country road, the kind where house numbers are hit or miss from the street.  We drove past his friend’s house three times before we managed to find the driveway.  Even my GPS couldn’t save me on that one.

Optional Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?

Last week we went to my husband’s summer regional meeting in Myrtle.  I loved watching the kids reconnect with friends, make new ones, and enjoy the perks of being among the older kids.  Despite my health problems (stupid infection!) I think I laughed more at this regional than I have in years.  It was good times.

Bear’s at a camp that looks ah-maaa-zing this week – based at a nearby college, filled with cool learning opportunities, with a diverse group of kids.  T-man is enjoying basketball camp, so I’m grateful for quality dog time during the day and looking forward to traveling to someplace new this summer.

Cee’s Share Your World is a Monday treasure.

What’s happening in your world today?