My life got simpler when I stopped fighting my curls. It only took forty years.
I didn’t have beautiful ringlets cascading down my back. Didn’t have sweet ringlets bouncing around my face either. My hair was more the poufy cloud of frizz hovering around my head.
That’s me on the left. Look at that hair! The body! The bounce! The refusal to do anything resembling style on a day to day basis, regardless of the weather! This was late elementary school.
And here we are in high school. POOF! (Yes, I know, the bangs are certainly something.) I don’t specifically remember but based on the general outline this was most likely a non-rainy day. Rain/humidity increases floof by a factor of five.
Anyway, if you look real close both of these show what I always thought was frizz. I mean, it was frizz but only because that high school pic is from the late ’80s and there was no such thing as curly girl products. Or basic education on how to deal with curly hair.
That’s probably why after I started working I kicked off several decades of trying to straighten my hair. All my curly folks can imagine exactly how successful this was. There were painstaking blow outs with my trusty Conair then eventually I added a straightener to my arsenal. Products improved and I’d even say I occasionally succeeded at forcing my curls into submission…sort of. A hint of rain to come, a bit of humidity, and straightener be damned, my hair would burst forth in all its poofiness.
And here we are today, graduated from the hair torture devices, embracing my wavy/semi-curly hair with a good conditioning routine and some decent gel. Does humidity still wreck havoc on this head? Yep, but we’re rolling with it.
It’s not like I have any other choice.
Linda hosts Stream of Consciousness Saturday. This week’s prompt is “curl.” Use it as a noun, use it as a verb, use it any way you’d like. Have fun!



Your hair is beautiful. All that volume! Why were we so hard on ourselves? “It only took forty years.” I can easily relate.
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I actually had forgotten how much volume I had. My hair is super thin now (which makes me wonder how on earth it can get as frizzy as it does 😭). Look at that thick head of hair!
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I miss those hairstyles, great times
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Those were the days…sometimes. Sometimes they were the days, sometimes they were nuts. 😂
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I love the photos I love the hair ….my hair is as straight as a dye …so I envy you 💜💜💜⭐
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Thank you so much. We always seem to love the hair we don’t have, right?
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Oh! Yes indeed 👍
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As a kid with really straight hair I was jealous of the guys with curly hair. They usually had the cook nickname – Curly and the girls seemed to go for them. I guess non of us were satisfied with our hair. Right now, I don’t even care that there’s very little of it.
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I love that most of us in the end get fine with the hair we have, even if that hair is minimal. I say at least there’s satisfaction in the end.
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So true of many things. I was thinking the other day that I have finally stopped agonizing over small stuff. Yeah, the big issues still cause me to rotate on a spit, but at least I have it down to a few items.
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Is there some kind of rule that everyone will be unhappy with whatever kind of hair they were born with? Mine had some natural wave, but I always wanted more curl – so, my answer was perms.
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It does seem like the natural order of things. I’ve never met someone who said they had the perfect hair for them…wish I’d accepted my semi-curls years ago.
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Aww, lovely pictures Laura.
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Thanks Sadje. They took me back!
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Most welcome
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Fun to look back at our former hairstyles. I’ve had some curly permanents before, but my hair is so super straight it won’t hold curling very long. Seems we always want the opposite of what we have. 🙂
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Right? The amount of time I spent *carefully* running each strand through two hot plates so it would lay straight…phew. Wish I could have those hours back😂
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My mom encouraged me to get a perm when I was young so I would have curly hair instead of the wavy hair that had a mind of its own. I eventually stopped perming because I found a stylist that knew how to cut the wavy hair and make sense of it. And, like you said, hair products have improved over the years. These days, my silver gray hair is mostly straight and still has a mind of its own, but my stylist and the available hair products keep it looking good and under control. I’m glad you let go of fighting the curls and are just being who you are!
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My mom never encouraged me to perm as there wasn’t a lot of money for hair upkeep, unless you mean yours said it when you were a young adult then never mind. 🙂 I think finding a good stylist is a big part. I found someone wonderful but then she stepped away from the job and I haven’t trusted anyone since. It’s a sad situation on that front.
Learning to embrace all of it — curls, natural color, texture — was one of lockdown’s gifts. It didn’t always feel like a gift 😂 but time off the grid gave me space to process the shift in accepting myself as I am.
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so funny, I always wanted curls, and now. when I stopped coloring, and highlighting and going with my natural gray/silver, I finally have some waves and curls
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My hair shifted once I stopped coloring it too. It got so much healthier overall although the curl pattern became a touch looser. I’ve never mentioned it but your hair is beautiful!!
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Yes, healthier too! Thank so much –
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