it took cojones to parent in the old days

Sure, some might say we grew up roughing it by today’s standards…but maybe we were the ones who actually gained in the end.  Is it possible, as the author says, that “we just don’t have the cojones our parents had”? 

“If you haven’t noticed, we’re getting a raw deal where this parenting gig is concerned.  When did adults start caring whether or not their kids were safe, happy or popular?  I can assure you that Ginny and Big Jerry were not wiling away the hours wondering if my brother and I were fulfilled.

Big Jerry was stoking the fires of his retirement savings and working, and working some more.  Ginny was double bolting the door in order to keep us out of the house, and talking on the phone while she smoked a Kent.  Meanwhile, we were three neighborhoods away, playing with some kids we’d never met, and we had crossed two major highways on bicycles with semi-flat tires to get there.  Odds are, one of us had crashed at some point and was bleeding pretty impressively.  No one cared.  We were kids and if we weren’t acting as free labor, we were supposed to be out of the house and out of the way.”

Are Today’s Parents Getting a Raw Deal? | The Huffington Post

doesn’t everyone keep a rolling anti-bucket list?

I’ve reached a peculiar stage in life.  One where I know the famous people who die instead of simply being familiar with names in the headlines.  Almost all of my friends are either married or divorced, and many have kids who are middle school aged or older.  More girlfriends than not are dealing with gray hair, and discussing aches and pains isn’t exactly an unusual topic of conversation.

I find as I tilt toward the second half of my life that there are certain experiences I most decidedly want to miss.

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it’s almost time for high fives and salsa dancing

We’ve got spirit
yes we do,
we’ve got spirit
how ’bout you?

Oh, these long, long days of elementary school…reading logs and flash cards.  Homework folders, #2 pencils, and letter grades.  Field days and cafeteria drama.  Good times.

After enrolling as runny nosed midgets who can’t walk in a line, kids slowly adapt to school culture.  They learn to take turns in the bathroom and use up all the paper towels.  They figure out which kickballs are the good ones and how to get an extra turn on the tire swing at recess.  They even gain an appreciation for certain cafeteria foods.

By the time kids move on to middle school they’ve morphed into nearly functioning humans.

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dog insanity + the witching hour = hours of fun for everyone

Okay, so who else has been totally bummed out by the last two days at RFTM?  Trust me, my name’s at the top of that list.  Thank you for sticking with me – for reading, for adding your thoughts, for the words of encouragement – it’s helped.  Not made-it-all-magically-delicious helped, but helped nonetheless. 

So can we please, for the love of all things holy, shift gears into something less doom and gloom?  (“Sure!  Why not!” says the quietly chirpy voice in my head.)

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babysitter standards in the ’70s and ’80s

I was born on a crisp January day in 1971.  Well, it wasn’t exactly crisp out since my dad was stationed in the Philippines at the time, but you get my point.  I am, without a doubt, a child of the ’70s.

Flared pants and the Brady Bunch.  Fish fingers, banana seat bikes, and heading home by dark.  Bologna sandwiches on white bread and Kool-Aid, with Twinkies as a treat.

The ’70s weren’t just another decade; it was more like another world.


That’s me, on the left. I hardly have the words.

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dust bunnies, coffee makers, and TP challenges out the wazoo

I’m grown, I’m responsible, I’m in charge of important stuff.  And yet, it seems, the list of things I Just Can’t Handle continues to grow.

» Dusting my house top to bottom.  Why do I hate this?  Let me count the ways.  The dust makes me sneeze.  It returns mere hours after I’ve removed it.  God did not give me the patience necessary to dust around knick knacks, picture frames, and books.  It involves far too much reaching and bending.  Plus no matter how throughly I think I’ve done it, there are always (always!) spots I’ve missed.


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even smart people are dumb bunnies in their own way

Jen Hatmaker is my soul sister, one I admire from afar so I don’t get tagged with stalker status.  Sometimes I feel like we live parallel lives.  Maybe we were separated at birth.  That’s not weird, right?

“I am a smart person.  I was a 4.0 honors student.  I graduated Magna Cum Laude.  I have the capacity to learn new things and retain information.  I love to study and I can make sense of complicated, dense data. 


1.  I cannot ever remember the difference between a walnut and a pecan.  As I sit here thinking about it, I cannot come up with a solid visual of either. 

2.  I cannot, almost ever, spell words correctly that end in -ance or -ence.  Independence, admittance, allegiance, consistence.  I just had to look all those up.  This is why the English language is impossible.  It is also why I lost in the Regional 4th Grade Spelling Bee over “receive” EVEN THOUGH I WAS A BETTER SPELLER THAN JEREMY DOUCET.  IT’S NOT MY FAULT HE GOT AN EASIER WORD AND WENT ON TO DISTRICT. 

How are you dumb (even though you are obviously smart)?”

– Jen Hatmaker, Facebook post, 12-12-16

The comments are just as fabulous.  You should really check them out.

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