Privacy. We all crave it.
We might find privacy more important in certain areas of our life than others, but everyone has something they feel is theirs alone to share (if we choose to).
On Monday, Bear’s classmate egregiously breached her desire to keep personal information private with an outburst that sent our afternoon into a tailspin. Tomorrow’s Forever Family talks about respecting the privacy of adopted individuals. Join us to add your viewpoint.
My kids have never really had much of a choice when it comes to being pretty conspicuously adopted. I mean, all people have to do is look at our family to see that we’re a little bit…different.
And that’s okay. I don’t mind being different.
But I’m an adult who’s had a lot of time to learn the value of not giving a crap what people think. It may have taken more than forty years, but I’m finally there. It’s rather freeing to be more concerned with living my truth than living up to to other people’s expectations, so that’s how I roll these days.
However, I also recognize that this “open book” philosophy is my own and not one I can force on the other people in my life, so I’ve found it’s important to touch base with them about their own feelings. Even the little people. Especially the little people.
“My kids have never really had much of a choice when it comes to being pretty conspicuously adopted. I mean, all people have to do is look at our family to see that we’re a little bit…different.”
what are you saying? are you saying you’re not Irish? that’s OK. we can fix that up pretty quick. we’ll just authorize you to put an “O” or a “Mc” in front of your name and you’re all squared away. pretty cool, huh?
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omg, Jim, I haven’t laughed this hard in forever!!! And I’m SO not Irish…couldn’t pull that off in a million years, especially seeing as people ask me where I’ve been on vacation in the wintertime (seeing as I’ve got that Italian tan year-round). 😉
I think I’ll take the Mc!
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Laura – I like your post here – and whew – so many sides to what u write about -💜
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Thanks so much. These guys sure give me a lot to think about!
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I bet! And here I sometimes have the opposite – my youngest son has no filter with any details – and one hand I love his openness and transparency – but sometimes I feel like he has to learn about family privacy – but at the end of the day I think his openness is a healthy thing. Side note – and just FYI – one of my very favorite books from chicks rearing days is called “teaching your children sensitivity” by Linda and Richard Eyre- and it was one of those unexpected gems – the lady has a huge litter of kids and I did not think it would be aligned with my style – but the wisdom and practical stuff is really great – and especially like her section on teaching On communication! For example – the parts About understanding feelings has this point:
“It has been said that observation takes place on three levels. First we learn how to observe nature and things. Second we learn how to observe other people. Third we learn how to observe ourselves. She then offered tips for understanding and developing g those areas more – but we used it for a family night activity – everyone had to rate how well they read nature, read others, and the self – and then we went around and gently shared if we agreed with their assessment – I also have examples of what they each meant and it was really fun – and empowering – sorry to ramble – but kinda ties in here 😊♥️
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Wow, what a neat sounding book! I see why observing ourselves is the last area to develop — seeing ourselves clearly can be so hard. And I love the way you turned it into a family activity…those times being honest with each other are really special. ☺️
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Thx – and it was one of those books that became a key resource – so thankful for it even though I only used it like four or five times – anyhow – looks like you have a great family – love the photo ♥️
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