Forever Family: leap of faith

Everything about adoption screams leap of faith.

Believing with all your heart that this is the right path.  Accepting that the plan for your family includes a great deal of uncertainty.  Understanding that this ambiguity doesn’t dissolve when the adoption finalizes; rather, it will insert itself back into your lives at entirely unpredictable moments.

Holding faith that you will love your children into and through every storm.

Adoption demands the same leap of faith from children.

Believing they are deeply loved for the people they are, not for a perfect image they try to project, then working to strengthen that belief when it falters.  Finding safe space to talk about anxiety buried within, and asking for help instead of hiding fear away.

Holding faith that they are bright, beautiful souls in the world, worthy of love and respect by their very presence on this journey.

when you set a goal and God throws down

“When it comes to technology and the kids nothing promised is permanent, nothing is etched in stone.  We try something and if it works, great.  If not?  Well, we try something else…

Which brings us to our latest shift.  It seems even our best efforts can’t get the kids enough non-screen time altogether, so BrightSide came up with the radical idea of no screens on Sundays.  I’ll repeat that.  An entire day without technology.  None.  At all.  Every single week.”

The goal of Friday’s post, basically, was the hope that sending good thoughts out into the universe might bless us with a semi-peaceful attempt at living tech-free for a day.  I wasn’t looking for Ghandi-like enlightenment, just sixteen or so hours with limited squabbling.

Here’s how it went.

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our whirlwind road trip back in time

Our family ran away this week.  In what can only be called a whirlwind road trip we drove to D.C. on Tuesday afternoon, spent the night with BrightSide’s sister, and then we all went to the African American Museum on Wednesday. 

We drove back Wednesday night and got in well after midnight, so my apologies if you dealt with any of our short tempered exhausted selves today.

But the museum…my word, the museum.  Tomorrow’s Forever Family will have our reflections on the experience.  I strongly recommend visiting when you’re able to plan a trip to our nation’s capitol.


Please note:  Entrance is free since the museum is part of the Smithsonian, but due to demand you must obtain a timed entry pass.  There are several options.  Same day timed entry passes are available online beginning at 6:30am ET until supply runs out.  There are a limited number of walkup passes available beginning at 1:00pm daily.  Advance online passes are released monthly and are claimed quickly.  The next release will be for January 2018 passes and is on Wednesday, October 4th at 9:00am ET.  Click here to read more or for links to pass availability.

gratitude: little brothers all grown up

When I look at T-man and Bear I dream of a day when they’ll enjoy a relationship like I have with my brother.

He’s a constant.  A steadfast force in my world.

He always lends an ear when I need another perspective and unwaveringly supports my decisions.

He loves my kids for the looney tune individuals they are and encourages me in my writing.

He inspires me every day – to be strong, brave, and make the world a better place.

I am truly blessed.

gratitude: the whole truth and nothing but the truth

Ah, the power of sisterhood.

She’s the one who promises she’ll always tell you if your hair looks whack.

She’ll point out the insanity of killing yourself over school projects or car rider lines.

She’ll commiserate over teen angst, girl hormones, and middle school drama.  Plus offer wine without judgement.

And she’s the one who promises to point out your chin hair when you get too old to see it yourself.

Bless.

the milestones come fast and furious

In honor of our 22nd, I’m revisiting last year’s anniversary post.

BrightSide, you’re my rock.  I will forever be grateful to have you as a partner on this journey.

Forever Family: do the math

It’s a special day for us.  BrightSide and I have been married 21 years today.  Twenty-One Years. Yup.  That’s a long time.  Not as long as our parents have been married, as T-man matter of factly pointed out, but still…”

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gratitude: there goes the book

BrightSide and I are not typically a fly by the seat of our pants sort of couple.  I keep a crazy absurd ridiculously detailed calendar.  We coordinate schedules.  We make plans.  When we leave town we have an itinerary, even if large blocks of it are dedicated to Down Time.

I’m not gonna say we always go by the book, but we definitely aren’t used to tossing the book out the window entirely.

Until last weekend.

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