Forever Family: 5 from my Tribe 1/19/18

It’s been quite a while, hasn’t it?  So long that I lost my baggie of questions and tossed structure to the wind last night.  It shows.  I think I’ll just edit out all the random dog shenanigans.

5 from my Tribe

One thing in your room you would grab on your way out the door if there’s a fire.  Not that you ever would, because if there’s a fire you’d leave right away.

  • T-man: If I had it, my phone.
  • Bear:  I don’t want to say this on your blog ’cause I’m gonna sound like a baby.
  • me:  Okay, fair enough.
  • BrightSide:  I would pick you up and carry you out.
  • Bear:  Stop it!  I don’t need that sappy romance.  Gracie.  I would pick up Gracie.
  • T-man:  I would pick up Phoebe!
  • me:  Wow…okay…so we’ve got T-man’s phone, Bear’s bromance with Gracie, BrightSide fireman carrying me out the door…
  • BrightSide:  You said if I could pick one thing –
  • Bear:  Mom would pick up Phoebe –
  • me:  And then he’d be fireman carrying both of us out!

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gratitude: not everyone has a grownup tree

I’m not surprised people feel a special fondness for Christmas trees.  They’re beautiful and often wrapped in a lifetime of fond memories, family and friends and nostalgia galore.  Some of them are actually gorgeous – grown up trees with a theme and coordinated colors, ones that make you stop and gaze in awe.

My tree isn’t a grown up tree, never has been, but I surely do love it.

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gratitude: Thanksgiving, a prelude

Half a step past Halloween and we’re solidly into NovemberDecember.  I’m calling it this from now on because there’s no point in kidding ourselves – November isn’t some sweet spot in fall when leaves slowly change as we sip hot apple cider.  December isn’t a leisurely waltz into winter either.  These two months combine into the holy grail of activity as families revolve around each other.

Yep.  Welcome to NovemberDecember.

On the way home from school last week Bear asked me which holiday was my favorite and, like a typical mama, I turned it around on her.  And she told me – wait for it – that most of her friends say Christmas is their favorite because of gifts (duh), but that her favorite is Thanksgiving.  Because Thanksgiving makes her think about being together with everyone she loves.  Thanksgiving is about family and good food.

It may or may not be because we’ve started watching This Is Us, but that answer?  That one made me just a teeny bit weepy.  It’s all the feels.

 

Forever Family: leap of faith

Everything about adoption screams leap of faith.

Believing with all your heart that this is the right path.  Accepting that the plan for your family includes a great deal of uncertainty.  Understanding that this ambiguity doesn’t dissolve when the adoption finalizes; rather, it will insert itself back into your lives at entirely unpredictable moments.

Holding faith that you will love your children into and through every storm.

Adoption demands the same leap of faith from children.

Believing they are deeply loved for the people they are, not for a perfect image they try to project, then working to strengthen that belief when it falters.  Finding safe space to talk about anxiety buried within, and asking for help instead of hiding fear away.

Holding faith that they are bright, beautiful souls in the world, worthy of love and respect by their very presence on this journey.

when you set a goal and God throws down

“When it comes to technology and the kids nothing promised is permanent, nothing is etched in stone.  We try something and if it works, great.  If not?  Well, we try something else…

Which brings us to our latest shift.  It seems even our best efforts can’t get the kids enough non-screen time altogether, so BrightSide came up with the radical idea of no screens on Sundays.  I’ll repeat that.  An entire day without technology.  None.  At all.  Every single week.”

The goal of Friday’s post, basically, was the hope that sending good thoughts out into the universe might bless us with a semi-peaceful attempt at living tech-free for a day.  I wasn’t looking for Ghandi-like enlightenment, just sixteen or so hours with limited squabbling.

Here’s how it went.

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our whirlwind road trip back in time

Our family ran away this week.  In what can only be called a whirlwind road trip we drove to D.C. on Tuesday afternoon, spent the night with BrightSide’s sister, and then we all went to the African American Museum on Wednesday. 

We drove back Wednesday night and got in well after midnight, so my apologies if you dealt with any of our short tempered exhausted selves today.

But the museum…my word, the museum.  Tomorrow’s Forever Family will have our reflections on the experience.  I strongly recommend visiting when you’re able to plan a trip to our nation’s capitol.


Please note:  Entrance is free since the museum is part of the Smithsonian, but due to demand you must obtain a timed entry pass.  There are several options.  Same day timed entry passes are available online beginning at 6:30am ET until supply runs out.  There are a limited number of walkup passes available beginning at 1:00pm daily.  Advance online passes are released monthly and are claimed quickly.  The next release will be for January 2018 passes and is on Wednesday, October 4th at 9:00am ET.  Click here to read more or for links to pass availability.

gratitude: little brothers all grown up

When I look at T-man and Bear I dream of a day when they’ll enjoy a relationship like I have with my brother.

He’s a constant.  A steadfast force in my world.

He always lends an ear when I need another perspective and unwaveringly supports my decisions.

He loves my kids for the looney tune individuals they are and encourages me in my writing.

He inspires me every day – to be strong, brave, and make the world a better place.

I am truly blessed.